One of the things that got me through being raped was the knowledge that not all men are like that - because I grew up in a family of men not like that and had male friends not like that. Having examples of men who, while not white shining knights, are of the mindset that rape is a vileness that should never happen to anyone, ever, and anyone who'd perpetrate a rape should die in the most painful, merciless manner possible, helped. I went through a period where I hated sex, but I never hated men.
Unfortunately, it left me with a low tolerance for the poor women who don't have those examples, and for whom trust of the Y-factors has been damaged so severely. Which is not fair, even though I try to give them my support and not my pity.
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Date: 2009-06-12 08:41 pm (UTC)Unfortunately, it left me with a low tolerance for the poor women who don't have those examples, and for whom trust of the Y-factors has been damaged so severely. Which is not fair, even though I try to give them my support and not my pity.